Forget the Haters Because Somebody Loves You
When listening to Miley Cyruses new song ‘We Can’t Stop’, some of the lyrics really stuck out to me in a positive way. One lyric in particular that I couldn’t stop thinking about was “Forget the haters cause somebody loves you”.
This made me start thinking about a particular patern in human nature that has always bothered and confused me. That patern is that why as humans when we hate someone or if someone hates us we tend to obsess over them? We look at their Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter pages or think about them for a large portion of our day because they hate us or we hate them. I mean what is the point in that? If someone claims to hate a person or if a person hates them, why do we obsess over them? I mean you don’t see yourself going “I hate going to the DMV but I’m going to spend all of my time there any way”. It’s a long formed habit in humans that desperately needs to be broken.
I mean, I can understand why we obsess over someone we hate. The reason is because we hate them so much that they are literally what we obsess over. By this I mean, we internally want to see them fail and be hurt like we were by them so much that we devote all our time and thoughts to that end. Forget the quote “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer”.
Literally obsessing over someone you hate is just making you more and more like that person. Don’t stoop to their level. Don’t let your whole life become consumed with so much hate and bitterness that is just slowly destroying you. People that are mean and hateful to you want to see a negative reaction out of you and even though it might be hard, give them just the opposite of that. These peolpe don’t deserve your attention at all!
It might take time, but you have to learn to forgive and let go of your hatered. There is a great quote by Buddha that has really helped me with this. “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”
I have learned this the hard way. A few years ago, someone was constantly being mean to me and I literally thought about it constantly. This has no benefits for you. I finally learned one day that as hard as it might be, just block out these people and give them no attention. Instead, remember all of the amazing, loving, people that have been blessed to you in your life. Even if you are going through a hard time in your life where you feel like no one loves you, remember that there is always someone that does.
If you take anything from this blog, remember to never let negative people’s hatred get to you because, in the long run, it just hurts you. Today, I encourage you to let go of any unresolved hatred you have pent up towards someone because it’s not worth it. Just live and let go.