5 Tips On How To Overcome Gossiping!
For this blog I’m going to give tips on how to overcome gossiping because it needs to stop! There are two types of gossiping. The first type is when you talk negatively about someone or something you don’t like or annoys you. The second type is when you hear a secret or story thats usually embarrassing or dramatic and tell other people about it. Almost everyone is part of gossip whether you are the one gossiping or the one being gossiped about. Eventually everyone involved in the gossip is hurt. I’m not going to lie, I’m very bad about gossiping. I’m the type of person that likes to vent by talking and I am bad about keeping my mouth shut, which makes not gossiping hard. But I am working on it and plan on being gossip free. The reason I want to stop gossiping is because I’m sick of everyone pointing out the flaws in other people instead of celebrating the good things about them. Here are a few simple tips you can follow to become gossip free.
Tip 1. Think Before You Speak
A few months ago I came across a very clever acronym on Pinterest for the word “think” and it has been stuck in my head ever since and has encouraged me to give up gossiping.
T is it true?
H is it helpful?
I is it inspiring?
N is it necessary?
K is it kind?
The reason I love this acronym is because it reminds me how pointless it is to say negative things. We really need to start thinking before we gossip. Think about how much less people would gossip if they would just think before they gossiped and repeated this acronym in their head. I hate when people say “But I can’t help gossiping” because you can, since your the controller of your mind. I think that people forget that all the time.
Tip 2. Find Other Ways to Vent
It might seem hard to vent other ways then gossiping, butthere are alot of other ways to vent. Here are a few ways to vent when someone or something makes you mad or upset.
- Write down how mad you are about that person or thing in a diary or journal. Its a great way to vent and no one else will see it except for you (make sure you keep it well hidden).
- Type out your feelings on your computer then press delete.
- Write down your feelings on a piece of paper, then rip it up into small pieces so no one can read it and throw it away.
Tip 3. Control the Conversation
When you are around a group of friends and the topic changes to gossip here are a few tips on how to change the subject.
- Try to change the subject by talking about something else in hopes that it will change the subject.
- Compliment the person that is being gossiped about.
- If these tips fail, let them know where you stand on gossiping and how you don’t want them to gossip when they are around you.
Trust me, when you don’t gossip about people it will helptake the negativity out of your heart.
Tip 4. Keep Your feelings to Yourself
I hate when people say “Say it to my face instead of behind my back”! or “Come at me bro”! The reason I hate it is because they are practically asking for you to insult them, which will just make them feel worse about themselves and it will just bring their self-esteem down. The reason you shouldn’t tell people about what you don’t like about them is because they can’t help the way they look and people can dress and do anything that they want. The only time I think it’s acceptable to confront someone is if someone has done something mean to the other peson, because that is considered forgiveness, which is healthy because it’s bad to hold a grudge.
Tip 5. Don’t Spread Gossip
Something that really annoys me is when people come up to me and say “Did you hear what said about you”? The reason I hate this is because I don’t want to know what negative things people have said about me and I don’t really care. I mean I know the person probably thinks they are a good friend for doing it, but I just don’t really think it is anyone’s place to tell someone they have been gossiped about. And it will also just make the person sad.
I hope you learn from this blog that you need to stop gossiping because it is just negativity and I hope that you apply the tips that I gave you to your life so we can help make a stop to gossiping.