singapore Blog and Journals

Singapore, 2nd January 2010.

We decided to start off 2010 by chilling out in an uber cool bar that had disappeared for a few months only to resurrect at 41A Neil Road. We were relieve to find that the new DMYK had retained its distinctive style & decor. It may end our dry spell for classy bars.

Can one expect pizzazz from a bar with techno jazz? Yes! I swore I was in the Alpha Chi sorority with it's bevy of beautiful gurls and their heavenly curves. But alas! No luck for this blonde lesbian tigress. The gurls just wanted to dance with good looking musclemen with strong lances. We headed for PLAY, the purported gateway to getting laid. Enroute, we were treated to wolfy smiles and growls by old prunes under the light of a full moon. Twiglight reprised too soon? Arghhh... double step, platoon. There was a line outside the archway. 15 dollars said the gate's milkmaid. Some of the beauties said, I am paying only if the barmaid lubes up.  LINEUP said the guard. Some of the beauties did, some batted their eyelid and left for Dixies. Two tried to slip under the curfew manned by Harpies for parents.

For more on Asia's transgender, please join our networks.

Singapore, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls, http://www.sgbutterfly.org

Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

Singapore, 19th December 2009

It had been ages since we returned to Backstage. New funky star shaped lights had been embedded into the wooden floor.  My heels still got stuck between the wooden floor boards. Though our old haunt still looked the same, it felt a little empty without our good sisters Terrence & Zeus. It was nice to catchup with our dear friends Azmi and Sabri after many months.

Our dearest Adaline pulled a suprise birthday celebration on our beautiful sister Geraldine. It's nice to be 24 years of age again even if it's through the eyes of our young sister.

We discussed detials of our Bangkok trip next year. The itinerary is very exciting with loads of shopping and partying. If you're interested to take part in the planning discussion, please visit our SGGURLS forum.

Asia's growing transgender network:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls

http://www.sgbutterfly.org

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

14th December 2009.

Pattaya, Thailand.

I finally met the bubbly and irrepressible leader of Bangkoktrans, Kate. I was pleasantly surprised to meet her enfemme. She femmed out for fear that I may not recognise her. The drive from Bangkok International Airport to Pattaya was extremely educational. In the two hours' drive, I learned about the amazing story of Bangkoktrans and its founder Leslie. It was a tragic love story that still made Kate's voice waver.

Kate and Jules decided to crash with me at Pattaya for the night. We dropped off all out stuff and we were off. Kate took us to the top of Pattaya to view the city lights. The view was breathtaking. I could feel the vibrancy of the city life below...or was it the growl of the hound of Baskerville making mince meat out of a street dog?

We visited Pattaya's famous Walking Street. It was everything that I had read and more. Soi 15 seems to have been taken over by middle-easterners. The streets were lined with hookahs and of course the hookers were further down the road. Besides the maddening nightlife filled with buckets of sleaze to make Amsterdam look like a second rate triple X city, the shopping prospects made this gurl salivate. I saw very pretty dresses going for 199THB each (9 sgd / 45 RMB). Gosh, I didn't care if they were fakes or if would last a week, the merchandise just look too good.

Kate brought Jules and me to a "Thai Girl" farm the next day. LOL, I am afraid I can’t reveal this exotic location. Let's just say that it's filled sexy cats. The place is sizzling hot. So be certain to wear 6" heels and glam up for a fabulously hot time. Oh get ready to have your photo taken with lots and lots of admirers. We decided to cool down back at Walking Street where we dined like Kings...er… queens.

Kate left us the next day but Jules accompanied me for more shopping mania. Before Kate left she set me up for an interview with the world famous Alcazar cabaret. I was excited and nervous all at the same time. I slept nary a wink. Not because of the impending interview but because of the wonderful SHOPPING that lay ahead. We broke the bank buying makeups, hand bags, heels, t-shirts, gifts, dresses and lingerie. I found a brand of lingerie called Elfe which I have not seen anywhere else in Asia.

Evening rolled around quickly. We were lucky since my SM mission went bust. The additional time made sure that I could prepare for my appointment with my knock-dead gorgeous potential boss at Alcazar. We attended the 8pm show as requested by the alluring Ms. Apple (manager of Alcazar); gosh it's so wrong to think of one's potential boss in such a manner & please kick my butt Buddha. Thank you. During the hour plus show, I was to pick out parts that I could fit in. I guess I know I should wear my analysis lens but I was too mesmerised by the exquisite ladyboys. My oh my, they were enticing. When the show ended, I met Ms. Apple. She explained the drills of participating in the cabaret. I forgot most of what she said. It was so difficult to focus.

Asia's growing transgender network:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls

http://www.sgbutterfly.org

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

and here they are ...

I have been chanting the mantras of turning the other cheek and of a half full glass. What else can a mortal do when old man Weather died and in his place is his PMS wife lashing out. While Mrs. Weather floods our home with rain and flood, Lady Greed has her hands firmly around the hearts of financiers. Thank goodness for Mr.Obama and the rest of the world leaders. The financial winter is almost over but yesterday the weather forecaster said that we can expect heavy rains in Singapore until January 2010. So more flash floods in Bukit Timah and Sixth Avenue, the homes of the riches financiers in Singapore.

Those who live in denial that the weather pattern hadn't change, suffers from a tragic delusion of yester-century. Flood, hurricane, high energy prices, bad healthcare, unemployment and an ever shrinking paycheck are today's norm. Every where there's change and unfortunately the changes doesn't seem to be for the better. We were told by our government that we have to work until we're 65! Well I guess change has always been a strange bed-fellow to a transgender such as I. So what's new when we face the bad, the ugly and the worse on a daily basis. We small band of gurls have found a slice of heaven, in the tight lgbt belt of Singapore, namely in Tanjong Pagar. With each other for solace, we find acceptance and friendship. So cheers to the rain which makes the sweet beer. We only pray that Lady Greed will release the hearts of bald fat bankers so that they can understand that the money and gold barsin their vault are belong to the caretakers wanting to make everyones' lives better.

Singapore, 13th November 2009

The rain was relentless on Friday th 13th but it could not be more perfect for SGGURLS' big bash. The temperature dropped from a smouldering 31 deg C to 26 deg C. Perfect for looking and feeling glam.

The Indonesian dishes piled on the kitchen table top tantalised our senses. If the food didn't spice things up, our super emcee sure did. I was given the privilege to kick off SGGURLS' program. Though it was an easy assignment, I had struggled with it for two weeks. There was a drought in the inspiration creek. It should not be suprising since the gurls had searched for the meaning of SGGURLS' existence for two years. There I stood in my 5" heels in front of my friends, nervous like a newbie clown. Something unexpected happened when I looked around the gargantuan hall. In 35 pair of eyes, I found inspiration. I realised that they have enriched my life beyond any monies the world could offer. My mouth moved involuntarily. I started talking about the fabulous dishes that reflected the diversity of our group. That night, not only did the "T" in the lgbt celebrate but it was a night which we celebrated the enjoyment of each other's uniqueness. When my short blurb was done, I was relieved but more importantly I was speechless that I found enlightenment in the most unexpected of times. 

SGGURLS' very own diva, Destynee,  gave two awesome performances despite dancing with bruised ankles caused by her shoes. Still she danced her heart out. Kayla invited some of the gurls to speak of how they felt about SGGURLS. It was humbling and motivating to know that a group like SGGURLS meant so much to so many people. Adaline stepped forth and told us how SGGURLS got started. Deanna's very frank testimonial melted our hearts. Florence, Elisa, Daniel (founder of SGB) shared their insights on transgender lives. Our multi-talented Trish, who made our beautiful logo, told us said that SGGURLS had encourage her to socialise more.

The star feature of the program entailed celebrating the birthdays of two very special friends, Rebec & Hendricka. Rebec has been very supportive of SGGURLS'. We met Rebec at Cows & Coolies. She made us feel at home when there were trepidations in our hearts. Our talented mujeres bonita,Claudia, graced us with two unforgettable spanish numbers. Kayla closed off the program with lucky draws. When the official program ended, the party went into fifth gear.

A big thank you the moderators who made this happened (a big giant hug to Kayla who was the anchor woman who made this happen, Trish, Ada, Des, Deanna, Elisa, Ivys' Jr+Sr, Joy) and our friends who braved the rain to be with us.

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For more on Asia's transgenders, please visit the following sites.

China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

Singapore: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls , http://www.sgbutterfly.org

11th October 2009

Singapore

I think we may have found the second chick central in Singapore. I went there to meet my gurl and girl friends for a usual Saturday powwow. Lo and behold, when I stepped into Ootique there was a sexy dance class in progress. Alex & Shirley from SDAM (www.sdam.sg) joined our Sat night drinking session. I finally got to meet Alex whom I have had only perved on his facebook. He's an awesome person in real life and looks so much better than the pics. Warren & partner joined in a little later. A quick kiss to my favorite in-house Sexologist, Dr. Martha Lee (www.eroscoaching.com), who saw to our creature comfort. Michelle, Ootique's owner (www.ootique.com) sported a new sexy blond look. Gosh, I wish I could just take these two back home with me. Once we were all settled down, we didn't get to talk too much as our heads were permanently tilted towards the the pole dancing class and the ensuing hen party. Gosh, I am so addicted to women! The bevy of women were driving me nuts. There were a couple of women in there that looked like magazine models.

In the little discussion that we had, we did firm up a few things on Halloween night. Shirley said that she will get back to me on the bulk discounts for SDAM's Halloween night. She told me that SDAM faces a big challenge on their 16th October ALTERNATION event in DXO (http://www.dxo.com.sg/index/index.aspx). Shirley said that she was confident that they will see about 80 pax but DXO, which is owned by NTUC, expects a minimum of 100 pax in order to continue making the space available to SDAM. So if anyone of you loves goth fetish art & indie music, write to Shirley (http://www.facebook.com/people/Shirley-Zhong), alex (youknowjustwho@hotmail.com) or Saito (slave@sdam.sg) or just go to their website to findout more about ALTERNATION (http://www.sdam.sg/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=441).

As for our joint SM & trans halloween night, please do check our networks.

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For more on Asia's alternative lifestyle:

Goths & more: http://www.sdam.sg , www.sdam.asia

Transgender network: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls, http://groups.yahoo.com/bangkoktrans, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

BDSM network: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork

Eros coaching (the only one of its kind in Singpaore): www.eroscoaching.com

Ootique: www.oohtique.com

I thought I do a limited release of some of the pics that depicted the behind scenes stuff of the calendar 2010 project.

There was a lot of work but we didn't forget to stop and smell the roses. The goofing around was way funnier. The gurls were on tight schedules so you can imagine running in and out of the aircondition trying to get their next outfit for the shoots.  

19th Sept 2009

Singapore

This Satuday I learned that sometimes last minute and no plan can be quixotic formulae for a fun filled night? It was an auspicious day with triple nines in a date, the eve of Hariraya Adilfitri and the first night after the Chinese hellgates closed. I was quite confident that things would workout eventhough it was the first time we held an SGGURLS outing in Ootique. We had to pickup a girlfriend of mine from the early SM days. She's the archetype Singapore Airlines stewardess: exotic, beautiful, cool and oh so girly.

When we arrived in Ootique, there was a hen party in progress. I was absolutely delighted to see a bunch of beautiful girls (real girls mind you), spotting strap-ons and hopping around the shop. I just can't help but grin silly at the much sexier versions of the Everready bunnies as they disappear into the horizon. We were greeted by Ootique's resident sexologist, Dr, Martha Lee (a real life qualified clinical sexologist). Mistress Cyra spotted a wicked smile when I did the introductions. I wanted to ask but I had learned not to bug a beautiful woman on her bemusements. Martha gave Mistress Cyra and slave a tour of Ootique. When we entered into the toy shop, Tiffanie and Annie were like deers caught in headlights. They were hunched a display case ogglig at battery operated devices. :-P Martha revealed that Michelle had been slowly stocking up very high quality adult toys. Ooo ... i wanted them too. 

We waited patiently for our dear Trish to show. A few of us pooled our resources and send one of our dear friend on a brave mission to TCC to get an extravagant cheese cake. Our beautiful Trish finally showed up, much to our relief. The birthday celebration went in full swing. While we ate our cake and had fun, we decided to make full use of Mistress Cyra's slave. In return for crashing the on-going Hen party, we made him give the beautiful bride-to-be a foot massage that rivaled Osim. 

Before more chaos and amorous activities set in, our head bunny, Kayla, called our SGGURLS' meeting to order. On the agenda were the status of the 2010 calendar project, the donor's money, the plans for the 2nd anniversary and halloween. No swords were crossed in the meeting but I can't say the same for the two duelling nymphettes swashbuckling their red hot vibrators after the meeting. I am not sure what the gurls were doing to the two poor manequines. When midnight rolled by, the gurls were itching to go to Dixie's for their round usual rounds of KTV and pool. I think the KTV and pool were not the attraction but the permission to smoke in an aircond room. As for the outcome of the meeting, I'll leave our Chairwoman to announce them.

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More on our transgurl groups and ootique, please visit the links.

Ootique: http://www.oohtique.com/information.asp

Singapore's trans groups: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls ,http://www.sgbutterfly.org

Malaysia's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

Bangkok's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

China's trans group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

Singapore, 30th August 2009.

It was a nights when good friends met for a round of umbrella drinks to exchange experience about our personal trek through the bleakest economic winter. It has been tough for everyone and the tired smiles showed. The consensus is that things are improving and Singapore has been luckier than most places. There was a brief discussion of the slow pace of the Calendar 2010 project. *Choke* Well, with everyone working multiple jobs to stay afloat is not a wonder that there was miniscule progress made. It takes time, energy, patience and faith to transforms free spirited friends into a cohesive work team.

A very deep philosophical discussion cropped up. The topic revolved around dealing with personal issues and revealing the hidden half to loved ones. Adaline gave us two wise advises when it came to opening the closet: one has to consider
the consequence from the wider social circle and one's ability to take gossips in stride. There were five obvious facets to transitioning that we could conclude. Life is a journey with a start and an end. In the course of the journey, we will learn as well as educate others. Thirdly, the destination is not as important as the journey. It's like climbing up a beautiful mountain early in the morning to admire the sunrise for a few hours. Eventually we have to descent. Fourthly, we can't escape from the circle of people whom we are associated with no matter how hard we try. Lastly, how we treat others is important. The fourth and last conclusions were derived by looking at how human lives were designed: we are meant to learn and teach. The endeavor to unleash the inner student and teacher requires tremendous courage. After the dizzy round of deep discussions, the gurls went over to Dixie's for a few rounds of pool.

For more on our tgurl groups, please visit our network:

Singapore: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sggurls

Malaysia: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mygurlz

Bangkok/Thailand: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bangkoktrans

China: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chinagurls

28th August 2009

Singapore

2 weeks before our munch, we still had not found a suitable place to host this month's BDSM munch. Our beloved bar, DYMK, was moving to a new location. Thus, the hunt for a new home started. Our SM moderators and community suggested, short listed and debated. But the finicky group could not settle for a place. The last few days to D-day, we finally decided on a place called Oohtique (http://www.oohtique.com/parties.asp). A few of the moderators reconnoitered the place and gave their thumbs up.

It was my first time in Oohtique and it was love at first sight. The place is private, cosy and most importantly classy. Oohtique is a gurls dream come true: a bar attached to a private shopping mall. Oohtique sells exquisite lingeries, imported dresses and decadent TOYS :-). The 70% discount sign just made this gurl drool. I finally met the OMG super gorgeous owner, Michelle, and her sexy assistant.

This August munch easily saw 25-30 participants with luminaries like the chairman of SDAM, gifted artists, busy execs and a founder of an SM bar in Thailand. There were plenty of hooks & crannies in Ootique for people to chit-chat privately. There was a lovely massage cum bondage bed in the main lounge. As the night wore on, people loosen up with Oohtique's cocktails and chilled beer. The ambience was the perfect mood setter for play. Master Alex (our very own Shibari expert) worked his ropes on hapless Annie. Before too long, Annie was hogtied on the bondage bed. We got to try all kinds of wonderful toys brought by Master JP. Mistress Karen did a demo on how to properly use the crop and flogger. Ouches & ooohs filled the room. The newbies watched with mouth opened and the lifestylers smiled. Of course, there was the constant SSC reminder (safe, sane & consensual) generously dished out by the moderators.

Ootique was kind enough to keep the place open until the last of us left. It was a perfect evening in a perfect place that set the mood for kink lubricated by delicious drinks served by the sexy Oohtique team.

For more information on our alternative lifestyle social network, please visit our associated sites:

Singapore BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sgdomsubs

SE Asia BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmASIAnetwork

Singapore's Dark movement: http://www.sdam.sg

China BDSM: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmCHINAnetwork

Ootique & Ooh louge: http://www.oohtique.com/parties.asp