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Today's Therapists - Rooney

In our newest installment of Rock N Roll Therapy, Taylor from Rooney plays doctor and answers real problems from real Buzznet members.

Amberhippo: I've been having girl problems for about as long as I can remember. Its been about 4 YEARS since my last girlfriend and im really starting to get depressed. The problem is I can never get on a girls "dateable" side. They always just see me as the guy they can turn to for any advice, or they guy they can trust with their life. Its getting really ridiculous. I cant just ask a girl out because they think its creepy if they dont know me , and I cant get too close because then i get put in that same situation AGAIN! What should I freaking do??? :[

Taylor: You need a new approach towards girls. I was very much the same in High school. There is something about your character that makes girls see you as a friend type, and not someone they want to be romantic/sexual with. I think you should be more upfront about what you're looking for.
when you meet a girl that strikes your fancy, there are ways to show her that you aren't just trying to make friends. Tell her that you find her attractive. This requires self-confidence. Building confidence doesn't happen over night, it will come with experience. You said you had a girlfriend before, so I'm assuming you're not a virgin. This isn't your first barbecue, so act cool.  Be direct, flirtatious, and most of all, confident. If all of this  advice fails you, turn to alcohol. Tequila makes her clothes fall off.

Copafreak: im in a relationship with a girl i met maybe five or six months ago. it turned out she moved to north carolina because her dad wouldn't approve of me and us spending time together. I’ve felt different feelings for her and i have promised her id leave for carolina to live there myself if its what she wants to but she doesnt express anything, according to her its "hard for her to express emotions" but the first four months all i got from her was this vibe shes in love with me. its alot on the line to move and the way she acts is almost like "if it happens it happens" while ill be working all these jobs to get to her in four maybe five more months. i dont know what to do anymore, do I stay or move?...

Taylor: Do not move your whole life for a girl who is being totally standoffish.  I am not trying to minimize what you had in those first 4 months together, but "acting" like she is in love with you is a lot different from actually saying it to you. Sounds to me like you are not communicating clearly with each other. Between that and the dad issue I would move on bro. this might not be the answer you're looking for, but it sounds like the reasonable option here. By the way, the bit about the dad wanting to move away because of you strikes me as weird and probably total bullshit. I've never heard of a grown man moving his family because he wasn't into the teenage dude her daughter was seeing.  doesn't that sound fishy to you? she is probably using her dad as an excuse. Whether he approved of you or not, I think his decision to move must have more to it. Unless he is the weirdest dad of all time. Sounds like a mess...move on. sorry.

Wentzrossfan: ...My Boyfriend cheated on me.
I still love him.
I want to take him back.
I hurt so bad. But he makes everything feel better.
I'm still in love but he cheated on me what do I do?

Taylor: Tough call. You should get to the bottom of what the cheating was all about. Does he have feelings for another girl? was it a one time drunken encounter? an Asian massage parlor? Guys do weird things when they are extremely horny. If it seems like he had a stupid indiscretion and he feels bad about it, consider giving him another chance. Watch him carefully though. Some men can develop a pattern of cheating. If you can no longer trust him, you'll have to move on.

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