Fat or Fit – Does it Matter Once You’ve Hooked ‘em?
Posted 1 yr 11 mos ago by
kassady Former James Bond star Pierce Brosnan has hit the headlines recently for unusual reasons. His wife Keely Shaye Smith has piled on the pounds and become an object of ridicule amongst the less esteemed tabloid papers and internet gossip sites. In true Bond style, Brosnan has spoken up for his wife and stated that he loves her regardless. All very noble but since her looks are quite probably part of what attracted him to her in the first place – is she guilty of false advertising? Or is it ok to relax a bit once you’ve settled down? So, my question is, do you have a duty to your partner to stay in shape or if you’re happy should they be?
and she hasn't "let herself go" as far as i can see. there is nothing wrong with not being stick thin. it's her body, she owns it, what she does with it is her choice. and i say good on her for not obsessing over being thin. far too many people do, and it causes so much pain.
Live forever young in your soul, let your body grow
Nobody knows what her health status is. You can't tell by looking at her if she is healthy or not. If she is healthy and they are both happy with her body, no harm no foul.
And I agree 100% with Chloe. Bodies naturally change as you age. I'd like to see these columnists writing about her in a bikini....*grr*
Wanting to lose some weight for health reasons and/or for yourself is a good thing. But stressing over your body for other people is stupid.
It isn't about love. It's about respect for yourself and your loved one. Of course they'll still love you if you're fat. That isn't the issue.
Here's how to avoid getting fat: Stop feeding your face with burgers, pizza, doritos, soda and ice cream all day. You are not children. You have self control. Use it. Eat healthy foods and exercise. It isn't brain surgery.
And no, you aren't getting fat just sitting there eating a healthy diet, drinking lots of water, and exercising regularly so don't go there.
If self respect weren't enough to keep me from getting fat, respect for my spouse and children certainly would. My wife didn't marry a guy whose gut hangs over his belt. And I want to be an example of good health for my children.
Pierce is doing the right thing by defending his wife - especially since it isn't anyone's business to comment on her weight but hers (and his, I guess), but she should at least make an effort not to let herself go.
Striving to have a perfect Hollywood body is unrealistic and unhealthy in many ways, but when you put on so much weight that you have to go out and buy new clothes so they'll fit your new plus-sized body, that's when you need to stop, put your wallet back in your pocket, and lose the weight.
Feel free to send me hate mail if it makes you feel better, but you asked: Do you have a duty to your partner to stay in shape? My answer: As much as possible, yes. Letting yourself go is unacceptable.
As much as I respect your difference of opinion, I find your insensitivity hurtful. I realize this is the internet, but there are real people behind these usernames, hence this is a real community we belong to. Perhaps a better approach would be to say something positive and encouraging, rather than negative and hurtful. Not only is it socially responsible, it contributes to the community that thought enough of you to bestow that tiny little badge under your name.
I am all about getting back my physical health this year, so if you have anything positive to offer, I'm all ears. Start a group on Buzznet and give us your secrets, recipes or whatever other health tricks you have up your sleeve. I'll be the first one to join and become involved, I promise you. Many people need help in this capacity, including myself.
I think you can let yourself go a little (at least as far as being comfortable around someone..)... it's the attitude towards eachother and the relationship that need to stay fit.