orange Blog and Journals

Joe Dexter of the pop-punk band Orange may only be 19, but he has learned a lot about life. He has toured the USA and has lived in both Los Angeles and England. Dexter offers up his best teenage advice on serious subjects like hurting yourself, sexuality and pessimism.  Check out this Rock N Roll Therapy.




Dragon21: First off, college sucks; I hate school period. And I can't even get a date - apparently I'm too hostile, unapproachable and intimidating... I'm not even sure how that could be! Secondly, I've been thinking about my future, and all I see is music; I have absolutely no clue how to go about getting to it or starting, but that's all I wanna do...

Please, help me????

Joe: I was in the same posistion as you when i was in highschool, but i was also awkardly shy. After my sophomore year I decided to leave school and just work on my band full time. and thank god i did that. within a few months I got a record deal with Hellcat records and have been touring and making records ever since! So my advice is keep in mind that as soon as your out of school nothing you did there will ever matter again. If you not the most popular kid there or you just cant get a date, it really dosnt matter end the end and wont affect what you do with your life.




Smokingsaves: I'm usually a very postive, opptimistic person (at least, I TRY to be...) but lately it just hasn't been working out for me. See, I'm very dependant on other people, my boyfriend in particular, and he works in Indiana and only comes back on the weekends. At first I was upset and cried myself to sleep at night. It got better because he'd come back every weekend. Friday was the last time he'd come back in over a month. Nights have steadily gotten worse since he's been gone. I thought i was doing well but now I see otherwise. I'm drinking and smoking ALOT more than I did before he left. I'm also realizing it's not such a good idea to trust everyone. I feel like I'm becoming some bitter hermit that wishes to have no contact with the outside world. HELP ME!!

Joe: Maybe it would be for the best if you two just broke up. espeacially as he is the reason your life is falling apart. but i know, you love him. and its a bit of a curse isnt it?! i was with a girl for 7 months and all she ever did was make me feel useless and awful about myself. but what could I do? i loved her. after a few months i thought, seriously this has to stop. so it ended. it took me 3 or 4 months to get over her and to stop wishing i would get back with her, and then one day it suddenly didnt matter anymore and out of the blue i didnt give a shit about her in anyway. it was really all over and ive been the happiest I have ever been since.





Kerstieatworld: This is a bit awkward, so I'm hoping that none of my friends/people I know read this. anyway.

Like most teenagers, you get to a point where you start to wonder what sexuality you are. Hetro-, bi- or homo-sexual. The thing is, I don't feel like I'm neither. It's hard to explain, and please don't laugh at me. I like boys, in the way that I'm attracted to them. But as soon as it gets below the waist, I'm completely turned off. And as for girls, I'm not attracted to them (in the same way as to boys) except below the waist. I feel so fucked up. No pun intended. But seriously, what would you call that? Half-bi?

Joe: Maybe your a sophisticated sex robot sent back though time to change the future for one lucky lady.





Windstone: So here's the setting, I loved a guy who was "bad" for me. He was 7 years older, living 2 states away and a ladies man. I was obsessed over him for around 15 months, maybe even more. we said that we loved each other and stuff, but it was as friends on his part. I knew this and the whole time I tried convincing myself that it was true. That he didnt like me. Finally 3 days ago I did it. Then I talked to him.. I am regreting doing it. My mind is empty. I can not concentrate on anything. I talk even less then I did before now (which wasnt very much before this) and I have become insanely lonely. Im afriad that this was a bad move for me. Because I really started thinking about doing stupid crap after I stopped. (harming myself, dieing, doing drugs, ect) Any advise to help?

Joe: When I broke up with my last girlfriend I was extremely depressed for a long time, I couldnt enjoy anything, tour, girls, finding buried treasure in my backyard. Even striking oil was a bummer to me! My advice, time heals all wounds. When a friend of mine told me this I thought he knew nothing but it turns out he knew everything.


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