The Blame Game: Chris Brown & Rihanna
Oh hey, remember the Chris Brown / Rihanna incident? The one where Brown beat Rihanna? And about a week ago, entered a not guilty plea? Right.
I'm not here to wax poetic about justice, though—I'm here to open up a conversations about the results of a study done shortly after the details of the incident were made public.
Girl Scouts of America commissioned a survey with Buzz Marketing Group to 420 girls nationwide between the ages of 8 and 17 on the highly publicized incident between Chris Brown and Rihanna. 59% blame Chris Brown for what happened, followed by 33% who place blame on both Rihanna and Chris Brown. The survey did contain one disturbing find among girls- it was the younger ones that were more likely to blame Rihanna.
Girls, what is this about?
I want you to try to step inside the heads of these younger girls and tell me how they've decided Rihanna was the one to blame.
One thing I've noticed among some commenters here on Buzznet (and ONTD, and other LJ communities) is this new-ish epidemic of girl-on-girl hate. And I don't like it one bit. I know this generation doesn't have a Riot Grrrl movement, nor is "GIRL POWER" paraphenilia all the rage, but there are plenty of strong females to look up to and plenty of male feminists. A lot of you were too young to be exposed to Destiny's Child, The Spice Girls and the other pro-girl artists of the late 90's/early 2000's, but is NOT having a Spice Girls severly damaging your sense of self? Do we need a Spice Girls 2.0? 'Cause I'll commission it, I swear.
Let's talk about it. Post your comment and the ones that provide perspective will be added into this post.
Some other stats from the Girl Scouts survey:
- 95% believe Chris Brown’s actions are not acceptable
- 45% believe Rihanna could have provoked Chris Brown
- 97% said it is never acceptable for a boy to hit a girl in a relationship
- 48% believe that Rihanna’s low self-esteem is the primary reason for her getting back with Chris Brown
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| Posted by breesays on 04/17/2009 1:17 PM | Visits: 2,052 |
Maybe we just need to provide DVDs of Spice World to every girl.
Little fangirls are completely unreasonable...
Even if Rihanna instigated it, it doesn't make his actions any less atrocious, irresponsible, and wrong.
I hate violence.
"He's too hawt and his music is too good, he just couldn't have done it..."
"I'm going to marry Chris Brown when I grow up, screw Rihanna to h-e-double hockey stick!"
( Oh wait... little girls probably swear nowadays. ---insert innocent giggle here--- )
I don't understand teeny bopper fangirlness nowadays. It's getting worse and worse.
I have the old school VHS. Everything's better with static in the background.
But I agree with this.
In today's day and age, violence is common between the newer generation. 8 times out of 10 it takes an older guy to sustain the true meaning of the word gentlemen. Just look at the movement of bling-bling, big rim riding, booty banging, baby ma-ma having, male 'role models' plaguing the scene. You'd hear a line about a guy taking a girl from her man before you'd hear a line about a guy going to meet a girl's folks.
Physical violence is never the answer but the reality of it all, is that it's just apart of human nature. I'm tired of people promoting how a guy should NEVER hit a woman under ANY circumstances. If a 6 foot, 300 pound chick came at my boyfriend with a knife, I'd want him to take the bitch out, ya know. lol Or any guy for that matter.
I think it's extremely unfair and sexist for society to assume that just because someone is born a guy they will automatically be able to sustain a woman without using violence if the situation ever calls for it. Not true and any attempt to carry out the honorable morals of the noble male specimen is not worth a mans life. I know this one guy who says he would let a chick stab him before he put his hands on her. To each his own bone, I guess.
Rihanna and Chris had been together long enough to know each others hot buttons. I'm not saying whatever she did justified a beating but she should still take responsibility in her hand over the heated ordeal. I highly doubt he hit her because she took his last piece of gum. Get my drift? I think her having had got back with him at all, is due to her taking responsibility for whatever of her actions got Chris swinging... doesn't mean she felt she deserved to be attacked, just that she's willing to forgive what only she can evaluate as plausible.
I know it's public protocol for a woman to dump a guy after putting his hands on her, but maybe Rihanna's level of maturity persuaded her to stick with him through the thickest of thick's. I heard a rumor that somewhere along the line Chris and Rihanna made plans to marry. Anyone know if that was true?
I agree with you. No one should glorify abuse, but they shouldn't be so quick to point the finger at one party and one party only.
No woman should ever be hit by her spouse, just as a man shouldn't worry about his lady love hitting him. It's a double standard to hold a guy accountable for abusing a woman, but not holding a woman accountable for hitting a male.
Abuse is abuse.
On one hand you have to blame Chris because of the obvious reasons, but at the same time Rhianna isn't completely without fault. Given he's been horribly abusive to her before (again only going off what I've heard/seen/read) this isn't a completely shocking situation. I'm not saying people should star cussing her out or judging her, because it's difficult for a lot of women to leave abusive relationships. At the same time however, it's not completely surprising to see it come to this level of abuse in those type of relationships.
They aren't sorry and the more you let them get away with it, the more abusive and ruthless they get. I'm just glad she did find a way out, and the bastard should be charged to the fullest extent.
I'm not saying that this justifys his actions in any way but "it is never acceptable for a boy to hit a girl in a relationship"?? I also think that it shouldn't be acceptable for a girl to hit a boy in a relationship - Equal Right Act springs to mind, did the suffragettes only fight for equal rights that called in their favour?? I know for a fact that girls can cause just as much damage as boys, but they are treated less harsh due to women being 'more vulnerable' I don't agree with violence as it doesn't solve any problems no one is violent without a cause and it is due to gender socialisation that we have these problems - men take their anger out physically to show masculinity, woman take their anger out mentally by screaming/crying etc because they are taught to be passive. But because of this, situations like this: would be taken a lot lighter I feel, than if it was the other way around...