Rock N Roll Therapy: All Time Low

Today's Therapists - All Time Low

In our newest installment of Rock N Roll Therapy, Alex from All Time Low give advice to Buzznet members that are facing some tough personal issues.




danielsgirl101: ok my ex and i realy liked eachother and we did it but like a day later he would just ignore me and he wouldnt talk 2 me or anything enthen he calls me saying its over and i was so upset and my friend called saying that the only reason he went out wit me was cus he wanted 2 do it with me but i dont know and now i might be pregnant and i dont know wut 2 do so some 1 please help me!!!

Alex: The single, most important thing you could ever remember in a situation like this is not to put your trust in someone without fully understanding who that person really is. Don't just give it up on the basis that you "like" a person. You've got things they want... Make them earn it. Obviously you're a little too late there, but all's not lost. My recommendation; listen to your favorite music, find somebody who gives you the chills, and USE PROTECTION!  ps. If you really think you're pregnant, my suggestion would be to visit Planned Parenthood asap. Good luck!




eyelinersmudge: After a long and hard struggle I finally went back to therapy (after  two years with out it) last week. I came out with a bit more than I could handle. My therapist noted that I'm wearing a mask and in order for treatment to benefit me I need to take off that mask and be the real me. The problem is I don't know who the real me is. And it's upsetting because essentially I'm a fake and I hate fakes. I imagine taking off that mask and there's nothing underneath. Just a featureless face.  How do I find myself? How do I rid myself of the mask?  I've tried asking myself who I am I and finding that but I get all of this pressure in my
get past this?u003cbr />u003cbr />Life is all about finding out who you really are.u003cbr />First of all, know that you're not alone. I don't think there's a person onu003cbr />this planet who has not, at one point or another, worn a mask to protect whou003cbr />they really are from a potentially difficult experience.u003cbr />The pressure of believing you're the only one with this problem is half ofu003cbr />what makes it seem so impossible to fix. The second step is figuring outu003cbr />what you're so afraid of by revealing who you really are. It isn't thatu003cbr />you're wearing a mask all the time, its that you're putting it on in attemptu003cbr />to keep your therapist out. What you need to understand is that by lettingu003cbr />that person in, they can get to the core of whatever else is bothering you.u003cbr />Just be straight up.u003cbr />Its hard, but once you break through that wall, the pressure you feel insideu003cbr />will lift, and you'll probably cry out every single one of those tears 'tilu003cbr />all you can do is laugh to make up for it. That's when you know you've doneu003cbr />it. Be real, because a mask only fools people on the outside. Pretending tou003cbr />be someone you're not takes a toll on the real you, and the real you is moreu003cbr />important than anyone else.u003cbr />u003cbr />3. I like, liked, this guy Kevin at work. He really likes me too. He's veryu003cbr />shy but at a party he turned out to be sweet after i had drank a little toou003cbr />much. I knew he was into partying but tonight my trusted friend told me thatu003cbr />they were both purchasing cocaine.u003cbr />I lost allu003cbr />interest. Is this wrong? He's nice, laid back, and it seems like we wouldu003cbr />get along.u003cbr />Should I stop things now so that later down the road things don't get out ofu003cbr />hand?u003cbr />am i over thinking it?u003cbr />Do i have every right to tell this nice guy to fuck off? maybe not sou003cbr />harshly!!u003cbr />u003cbr />I don't fuck around with stuff like that. I avoid it completely. I can'tu003cbr />speak for you, but I'd stay away from the situation. If you're really intou003cbr />",1] ) chest and hush it out before I break down crying. Any advice on how I can get past this?

Alex: Life is all about finding out who you really are.  First of all, know that you're not alone. I don't think there's a person on this planet who has not, at one point or another, worn a mask to protect who they really are from a potentially difficult experience.  The pressure of believing you're the only one with this problem is half of what makes it seem so impossible to fix. The second step is figuring out what you're so afraid of by revealing who you really are. It isn't that you're wearing a mask all the time, its that you're putting it on in attempt to keep your therapist out. What you need to understand is that by letting that person in, they can get to the core of whatever else is bothering you. Just be straight up.  Its hard, but once you break through that wall, the pressure you feel inside
will lift, and you'll probably cry out every single one of those tears 'til all you can do is laugh to make up for it. That's when you know you've done it. Be real, because a mask only fools people on the outside. Pretending to be someone you're not takes a toll on the real you, and the real you is more important than anyone else.

jessiharlot: I like, liked, this guy Kevin at work. He really likes me too. He's very shy but at a party he turned out to be sweet after i had drank a little too much. I knew he was into partying but tonight my trusted friend told me that they were both purchasing cocaine.  I lost all interest. Is this wrong? He's nice, laid back, and it seems like we would get along.  Should I stop things now so that later down the road things don't get out of hand?  am i over thinking it?  Do i have every right to tell this nice guy to fuck off? maybe not so harshly!!

Alex: I don't fuck around with stuff like that. I avoid it completely. I can't speak for you, but I'd stay away from the situation. If you're really into
u003cbr />4.u003cbr />i am so sick of being alone. i have friends and everything but i just feelu003cbr />distant from them even if i tell them most of what goes through my head i amu003cbr />jelous of my best friends. i hate it. they're all great people and othersu003cbr />actually like them and they dont even seem like the realize it, like its nou003cbr />big deal or something i am currently in a state of hatered and i just wantu003cbr />to be away from everyone and everything and myself and alone but being aloneu003cbr />is the fucking problem so i dont understand how that could fucking help iu003cbr />just want someone to actually care about me for once and i dont see thatu003cbr />happening anytime soon since it never has before i have no idea what to dou003cbr />Anyone ever dealt with this before?u003cbr />u003cbr />Its impossible not to feel alone at times. The only person in that head ofu003cbr />yours is you, so its understandable. That feeling of distance between youu003cbr />and your friends, is probably a feeling that you're creating yourself. Iu003cbr />fell into a slump exactly the same as the one you're describing now when weu003cbr />were writing and recording our new record, and it took me a while, but Iu003cbr />finally realized that the rift I felt was self-made. The truth is, youru003cbr />friends probably love you a lot more than you think, its just not always asu003cbr />obvious as you'd like it to be. You have no reason to be jealous of them,u003cbr />because there's no doubt in my mind that you've got things you have and dou003cbr />that they envy you for, so roll with it. Hope this helps!u003cbr />u003c/div>",0] ); /this guy, see if he'd be willing to stop for you.




blackparadegirl: i am so sick of being alone. i have friends and everything but i just feel distant from them even if i tell them most of what goes through my head i am jealous of my best friends. i hate it. they're all great people and others actually like them and they dont even seem like the realize it, like its no
big deal or something i am currently in a state of hatered and i just want to be away from everyone and everything and myself and alone but being alone is the fucking problem so i dont understand how that could fucking help i just want someone to actually care about me for once and i dont see that happening anytime soon since it never has before i have no idea what to do.  Anyone ever dealt with this before?

Alex: Its impossible not to feel alone at times. The only person in that head of yours is you, so its understandable. That feeling of distance between you and your friends, is probably a feeling that you're creating yourself. I fell into a slump exactly the same as the one you're describing now when we were writing and recording our new record, and it took me a while, but I finally realized that the rift I felt was self-made. The truth is, your friends probably love you a lot more than you think, its just not always as obvious as you'd like it to be. You have no reason to be jealous of them, because there's no doubt in my mind that you've got things you have and do that they envy you for, so roll with it. Hope this helps!

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