Another relationship help blog, this time on the IMAGE.
People tend to fall for the IMAGE rather than the PERSON. We live in a society that thrives on images and stereotypes, it's more comforting to label something. And that's a part of being HUMAN. Scientists do it, children do it even animals do it when they're hunting and mating. It's called Reasoning, in a positive light; it's also called Judging (in a more realistic, actual light).
This is how a lot of people try to FIND love instead of just letting it happen. Don't get me wrong, it's possible to find love, take control of the reigns and see what's forthcoming because you've planted the seeds. However, that sounds like a lot of unecessary tedious work. Sometimes you have to get outside of the farm, live life and on your way home your car may break down. An honest gentleman comes to help, bingo. What many people may want to do is flirt, give him your number, tell him to call you. Here's a tip, no two:
1. The Art of Seduction is all about TIMING.
2. A great way to seduce is by NOT seducing at all.
So, let's switch things up a bit. Say that gentleman is not your usual "cup of tea." In this case many people will decide not to flirt at all. However, it's these kinds of cases that end up turning into love stories. Here's the deal: Forget that "Opposites Attract" and "Birds of a Feather" bullshit. Because if those were indeed true, why are they so different? Those terms are simply myths, not forces that are only "proven" AFTER a couple can relate to one of them. Love isn't about terms, stereotypes and situations it's about personality and timing. (For the most part)
If you want real love, not the usual love or the kind of love where you can only dream up until the "Happy Ever After" credits don't think about stereotypes, don't think about what you need to do to catch this person and don't ask yourself "Does this situation sound like a love story?" Basically, don't TRY TO FALL IN LOVE, let it happen, let it suprise you and you'll have it for a long time.
On the other hand, you must still use your reasoning! If you meet someone at a club (which I always think is the worst place to meet someone. It screams booty call and commitment issues.) and that person has many people around them, completely intoxicated with lust and greed... don't even think twice. That screams drama, which you don't want.
Anything is possible with Ole Cupid. Try to view the opposite sex as a friend first until the other one makes a move. If you really don't have the time to go out on a date, tell them in a sweet manner. If the other person really likes you, no matter how many times you turn them down gently, they'll come around like a boomerang. And that is the first sign of love.
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