Your Favorite Celebrities Dish Up Dating Advice
Celebrities. They just have it all, don’t they? From millions of dollars to their pick of fabulous designer outfits, most of us have wondered at least once what it’s like to walk a day in their Louboutins. However, there are downsides. For instance, everything you do or say is under the microscope, ready to be dissected – little is private and almost nothing is sacred, including their relationships.
These celebs have all opened up about their relationships. Read on to find out what advice they have to share!
The Look of Love
Some showbiz couples beat the odds and last the long run (we’re looking at you, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn), while others finish before they’ve even begun. With Valentine’s Day upon us, we thought it was the perfect time to delve a little deeper and share some key relationship advice straight from the red lips of Hollywood’s elite.
Don’t Be Afraid To Switch It Up
With the attention on gender stereotypes and equality ever growing, going out on a date can be a bit of a minefield. According to Beauty and the Beast actress Emma Watson, it’s important to have an open dialogue about what is expect and what’s not. “I actually took a man out for dinner. And I chose the restaurant and I offered to pay and it was really awkward and uncomfortable. . .but the cool thing about it was we were both willing to have the conversation about why it was awkward or why it was uncomfortable. We were able to have this dialogue.”
Be Prepared To Put The Work In
If anyone’s qualified to impart a bit of dating wisdom, it’s an actor that worked on one of the most successful shows about relationships. How I Met Your Mother star Neil Patrick Harris says battling against our primitive nature can be a challenge when it comes to monogamy, so you have to work at it. “We’re animals and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of our lives. I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually. Having kids was one of those great moments for me.”
Friends First, Lovers Later
Okay, we all know that Beyoncé and Jay-Z have been through some rough patches. There was Jay’s extramarital affair with “Becky with the good hair” that Bey alluded to on her album Lemonade, and lest we forget that elevator fight between the rapper and Solange. Despite all this, the couple still stands united – stronger than ever – so clearly, they’re doing something right. According to Beyoncé, the key is taking things slowly. “We have been together since I was 20 years old. We took our time and developed an unbreakable bond,” she told Glamour.
Above All – Have Fun
When you first start dating someone, everything is new. Every text you get, every time you meet, it’s always exciting. According to Mindy Kaling, having fun is one of the most important things. Even if you don’t get a lasting relationship out of it, dating can be a riot – if done right. “Who doesn’t like a nice heavy seven-course meal with lots of alcohol, then making out when you’re a little tipsy. Wait, actually that was my whole 20’s. And it was very fun.”
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Take Care of Yourself First
Ellen DeGeneres has been married to her wife Portia de Rossi for 10 years. The couple can often be found alongside #GOALS on Twitter, especially after Portia gifted Ellen an entire charity in her name for her 60th birthday on The Ellen Show. The pair both had their fair share of dating disasters prior to getting together in 2004. According to Ellen, the key to lasting love is finding out who you are first. “Find out who you are and be that person,” she told Glamour. “That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth, and everything else will come.”
Find Someone That Makes You Laugh
There was a time when everyone thought that serial dater George Clooney would remain Hollywood’s most eligible bachelor, but that all changed when he married Amal in 2014. The painfully good-looking couple have two children together. According to George, humor is an important attribute when finding love. “Everybody says this, but I’d bet a sense of humor is no.1 for me. It’s certainly what’s most attractive and the first thing you notice about someone. It might not be the first thing you notice at 21, but it’s the first thing you notice now.”
Talk, Don’t Argue
Actor Aaron Paul may have played one of the unluckiest characters ever in Breaking Bad, but in reality, he has his relationship on lock. Aaron married model Lauren Parsekian in 2013, after dating for just over a year. While some may consider that a whirlwind romance, the couple is stronger than ever and welcomed their first child earlier this month. Paul contributes their success to honest communication. “People get in fights because they don’t communicate. My wife and I do not argue. We communicate. We talk. But we’ve never fought in our entire relationship.”
Sometimes, Casual Works
We’ve all had the ‘What are we?’ conversation at some point in our lives, but Orange is the New Black actress Laverne Cox believes in letting things happen naturally. “I’m seeing someone but we haven’t defined what we’re doing. We’re just enjoying each other’s company and having a very good time and laughing together and supporting each other.” Taking some of the pressure off has clearly worked for Cox, who looks happier than ever. Take a leaf out of her book next time you want to have ‘the conversation’.
Don’t Play Games
Yes, Chris Pratt and Anna Faris have now divorced, thus breaking our fragile hearts forever, but that doesn’t mean that Chris doesn’t still give out some pretty strong dating advice. He told GQ that being honest with yourself is vital when it comes to impressing women. “The truth is that any amount of trickery or wearing cool shirts with rad designs or using pick-up lines, or any of this bullshit like trying to neg girls, isn’t going to matter. It won’t pay off when she realizes that you’re full of shit.”
Be Honest About Your Issues
Channing Tatum and his wife Jenna met on the set of one of his early movies, Step Up and have only had eyes for each other since. However, Channing shared an unorthodox trick they use to keep things on track. “We have a trick we use to check in with each other. We say, ‘On a scale of one to 10, how much do you love me right now?’ Sometimes it’s like, ‘I love you at a six right now. I have an issue, and you asked. So now I’m going to tell you…”.
Change Happens, Deal With It
Star and writer of the hit series Girls, Lena Dunham has delved deeper into the realms of relationship ethics than most of us. She says that accepting change is fundamental to a successful partnership. “I think women are conditioned to stand by their man and watch them make it to the top, but most men never believe the person they get into a relationship with is going to rise any higher than she was when they met. It takes a very special, evolved person to be able to deal with change within a relationship.”
Meryl Streep. Screen icon, talented actress, exceptional advice giver. If you’re going to listen to anyone, let it be Mamma Mia’s Donna, who believes admitting responsibility goes a long way. “You have to talk about all the issues that arise, even the smallest things. You have to listen to your partner’s problems, suggestions and advice, and accept that you’re not always right. Conversation is the key to a successful marriage.” Streep has been married to sculptor Don Gummer for 30 years. The couple has four children together, Henry, Mamie, Grace, and Louisa.
Keep Your Standards High
Sometimes, everything you want in a partner can seem utterly unattainable, but Kim Kardashian West is here to tell you that you can find a spouse that ticks all the boxes. “I have this best friend who understands me and helps me through all my tough experiences, and vice versa, you know? It just feels like this is it for me. I used to think, ‘Well, can you really have it all?’ The truth, the excitement, and the passion? Now I know you can.” In other words, don’t settle. You’ve got to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.
Be Comfortable Being Single
Taylor Swift has had more highly publicized relationships than you can shake a stick at, from John Mayer to Tom Hiddleston. However, according to her, it’s all about being okay alone. “I think it’s healthy for everyone to go a few years without dating, just because you need to get to know who you are. And I’ve done more thinking and examining and figuring out how to cope with things on my own than I would have if I had been focusing on someone else’s emotions and someone else’s schedule. It’s been really good.”
Know What Makes You Both Happy
The world loves a happy celebrity couple, and Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake have got being happy down to a fine art. The actress believes that their relationship is stronger because they share the same core values and interests. “We have similar values; we believe in loyalty, honesty. We like to have fun. We like a lot of the same things. If you find that and someone has the same values as you, it’s like: Score!” The pair married in 2012 and have one son.
Spend Quality Time Together
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, then things can get pretty stale, especially if you’ve got other responsibilities. Queen of Twitter (and our hearts) Chrissy Teigen is the master of having it all: a successful career, doting husband (John Legend), and a growing family. Making time for romance is vital to longevity, according to the model. “You just have to make time for each other, go on little trips like we did for our birthday and go to dinner just the two of you sometimes.”
Flirt, Flirt, and Flirt Some More
Country singer Jessie James married NFL player Eric Decker in 2013, going on to have three children together. Jessie claims that the secret to keeping her marriage alive is by paying her husband extra attention. “I think women sometimes stop flirting with their husbands and you can’t,” she told People. “Men want to feel good – they want to feel like their women love them. When they come home from work, don’t start nagging them with questions. Go up to them and give them a big kiss and ask them how their day was.”
Be Vulnerable and Forgive
Actress Kristen Bell took to Reddit last year to answer some fan questions. Inevitably, the subject of marriage came up, with posters wanting to know how she keeps things with husband Dax Shepard on point. “Try hard,” she answered. “It’s uncomfortable, but worth it. Also, BE VULNERABLE. No one does it right. So forgive. And then be vulnerable again.” Her candid words had a profound effect, with one woman replying, “I’ve been married for years and this statement is one of the best things I’ve read since starting this ride. Well freakin’ said.”
Keep It Physical
All My Children star Kelly Ripa held nothing back when she was questioned on her 22-year-marriage to Mark Consuelos by Watch What Happens Live host, Andy Cohen. Ripa believes that being intimate on a regular basis is a key factor in avoiding the divorce courts. “I fundamentally believe that the more you do it, the more you do it. The less you do it, the less you do it.” Science is on her side, with studies finding that keeping active between the sheets will boost your happiness with your partner. You can thank us later.