Slut Shaming

BOO YOU WHORE.

Don’t you remember in the Mean Girls movie.. calling each other degrading names doesn’t work out to well for Regina George and The Plastics.. she got hit by a bus…

Here’s the thing I don’t quiet understand.. slut shaming; when girls call other girls degrading names. Why do girls call one another; whore, slut, skank, cunt, hoe, bitch.. etc. We all know what it feels like to be hurt by name calling.. we as woman know how sensitive one another are, so it is okay to name call them because we know it will hurt their feelings? As women we are degraded by men all the time, but for another woman to degrade another woman is absolutely ridiculous.

I for one have been around verbally abusive men before. I heard my Mom getting screamed at by my Dad at a young age. Him calling her a “cunt” all the time, him degrading her, and saying words to her that were so hurtful she would cry. I was in a relationship and it ended with him calling me a slut, and a whore, saying anything he could to hurt my feelings, saying anything he could to get a reaction out of me, to break me.

Verbal abuse is just as hurtful as physical abuse. Physical abuse might leave you with bruises and scars… but eventually they fade away. Verbal abuse will stick with you and scar your soul. Any abusive is unacceptable.

So in our society when we have men that are capable of abusing women verbally by calling them evil names..why should woman do the same?

We as woman should stand together, we as woman should support each other, we as woman should never put down another women with words.. because if we do it to each other it just makes it more okay for men to do it to us.

I create a lot of content on Sex & The Valley about sex and relationships and share my experience with you all. I also create videos on my YouTube channel talking about sex toys, and gender differences with sex. I am used to getting comments from girls telling me I am a “slut” for talking about sex. Getting comments that I am a “whore” for sharing my experiences with the world. It doesn’t bother me that I get negative comments on content.. just because nothing is always going to be cupcakes and unicorns.

The thing that get’s to me is that it is woman saying it to other woman. Do they not see that when a woman calls another woman a name on a public forum it makes it OKAY for a man to slut shame a woman on a public forum and in REAL LIFE. We are literally making it okay for men to call us names, because we are so catty that we feel like degrading another woman will do something for us, makes ourselves feel better.

Being a woman we go through so many hard things, from gender equality, to cultural differences. We fought to have equal rights, we are fighting to have equal pay. We do not need other women tearing each other down, we need to bring each other up, we need to empower each other to be who we are. We need to give each other strength and courage. We need to help each other gain confidence.

When people try to tear you down it is a reflection of their own insecurities. Sure we are human, we get jealous, we get pissed off, we get down right ANGRY. Yes I will admit I have gotten into arguments with my sister and called her names, I am not an angel here. However, this blog post isn’t about loving every woman who is on the planet and being nice to everyone.. it is about why women shouldn’t SLUT SHAME each other. Why woman should stop degrading other woman to make themselves feel better, to make themselves look tough, to make themselves be the “bigger” person.

I would like to propose something on Sex & The Valley.. all of you are the best and most loyal readers out there. You are all open to hearing, and learning about sex, relationships, and reading the truth about being a woman. I propose that we all stand together and vow not to slut shame each other online, or on a public forum. I propose that we stand together and unite.

We can all be bad bitches, we can all be hot babes, we can ALL be successful. We as woman have the power to change the world, so let’s start by changing our actions to help one another grow and become powerful, successful women.

Like Queen B said;

Who run the world.. GIRLS!

xoxo

Samii Ryan